Once again, I need to clarify

Here is one of my biggest faults. I react to things Quickly and often rashly. One of my Greatest assets is how quickly I realize my mistake in judgement and try to rectify it.

I don't like to hurt people. I instantly feel bad when I do. I try to make sure I have done everything in my power to fix it on MY end.

I struggle to find and keep balance.... I'm sure EVERYONE has had that problem in one way or another.

The scales are ALWAYS tipping back and forth in an attempt to keep them level. But I try to NEVER allow them to tip too far in one direction before catching it and making it right.

If you are one of the people who has accused me of talking about you negatively behind your back, and heard my attempts to deny it, and then read my blog and thought I was talking about you. Here is your answer for the "contradiction."

I will NEVER say ANYTHING about you that I wouldn't say to your face. This is why my blog is not private. If I'm going to say it, I will stand behind it. But just MAYBE, if there is no name mentioned in my Blog, I am NOT talking about you or any ONE person. But a general situation that I have encountered. I am referring to an ESSENCE. A residue that comes from many encounters. If you are able to insert YOUR name into the scenario I am referring to, you must have some reason to feel "guilty" and "KNOW" that it is you who I am referring to. But I am not your accuser. YOU are. Or the person who reads it and assumes that YOU are who I mean. THEY are your accuser. Not me.

A couple of posts ago, I did in fact specifically mention names. It is because for the first time I AM specifically referring to those SPECIFIC people vs an essence or residue from many different factors and situations.

So, you argue, I DO talk about people behind their backs. I am a Hypocrite, and a liar.

NOPE! Loosen the noose before you go any further. It is RIGHT there in FRONT of them. They are WELCOME to read what it is I have to say, and then confront me if they wish. I WILL stand behind it. I will admit it. I will not hide behind anonymity. You have my name attached to the post. The difference is that I don't say it, and then make it private. I say it publicly. I just don't get right in your face and SCREAM it.

A FAR cry from talking behind your back!

Lost Virtues

Forgiveness is so UNDER rated now a days. I've said it before, and I'll say it again.... so is Empathy!

If one could see the effects of their actions through another's eyes. Feel the effects through another's heart, Would they be so hasty as to wound and judge.

I realized something last night. That those of my Friends who know the WHOLE story, are still around. While those who only know 2/3rds are not.

I believe it may mean that A) Those who have been told the whole story are able to grasp a deeper level of truth and existence, there by making them more understanding, and less likely to judge what takes place on the surface. Or B) I am really hard to understand, and those who know the whole story have all the pieces which makes understanding me and the situation easier. Or Both.

What's interesting is that I write it all down. If you're reading this you have either heard the stories first hand, heard the stories second hand, or read about them in this blog. It's ALL here. But those who I have not DIRECTLY told, don't seem to know it.

I hide NOTHING. I protect myself as much as I can while keeping to what I feel is MY code of ethics: Integrity.

I have nothing to hide, thus I hide NOTHING. I WILL protect my family though, and if you pose a threat, I will NOT give you ammunition.

I guess you could say that I speak in parables often. So, I guess those who have ears to hear, and eyes to see, do. And those who have not the fortitude to discern, miss out.

Back to the original point. Why are forgiveness and empathy so difficult to come by?

I try to understand others perspective, and judge liberally vs rashly. (do NOT misunderstand. I admit freely that I can REACT rashly. But to actually have that action be my final judgement is RARE)

And I've noticed that forgiveness is an INCREDIBLY rare commodity. People hold the smallest offenses over you eternally now days. But I am realizing that people who can't forgive others almost NEVER have the ability to forgive THEMSELVES. So I guess at least they're consistent on that one.

So, do not judge...leave that to God. Have empathy. And forgive.... YOURSELF and that might make it so much easier to forgive OTHERS!!!!

Control?

Today's WONDEROUS epiphany:

Being in control of your life is acting appropriately because you can. Staying calm because you can. Being kind because you can.

NOT

Acting inappropriately, getting flustered, or being unkind because you can.

Instead of eating CRAP because you CAN, eat Healthy because you CAN. Because you can do whatever YOU want to.

Instead of executing justice because you can, leave it to the Law and God.... Because you CAN.

No one controls you. No one has that power... and since you ARE the one who decides and can do whatever the HELL you want, show TRUE control!