No One is Alone

♫ Mother cannot guide you
Now you're on your own
Only me beside you
Still, you're not alone
No one is alone, truly
No one is alone ♪

♪ Sometimes people leave you
Halfway through the wood
Others may decieve you
You decide what's good
You decide alone
But no one is alone ♫

♫ Mother isn't here now

Wrong things, right things

Who knows what she'd say?

Who can say what's true?

Nothing's quite so clear now

Do things, fight things

Feel you've lost your way?

You decide, but

You are not alone

Believe me,
No one is alone


Truly ♪

♪ You move just a finger
Say the slightest word
Something's bound to linger
Be heard ♫

♫ No one acts alone

Careful

No one is alone

People make mistakes

Fathers

Mothers

People make mistakes
Holding to their own
Thinking they're alone ♪

♪ Honor their mistakes

Fight for their mistakes

Everybody makes

One another's terrible mistakes
Witches can be right
Giants can be good
You decide what's right
You decide what's good ♫

♫ Just remember

Someone is on your side

Someone else is not
While we're seeing our side

Maybe we forgot
They are not alone
No one is alone♪

♪ Hard to see the light now

Just don't let it go

Things will come out right now
We can make it so
Someone is on your side
No one is alone ♫

Starting Now

I've heard 2 things this week that have really impacted my thought process:

1)A Friend of mine was talking to someone and admitted to "merely surviving" for the past 11 years. And also "running" from her past. This person said to her, "You have been actively procrastinating."

2)Status Shuffle: "We use our fear as an excuse, when really, fear should be our motivation."


Starting today, I will no longer be an Active Procrastinator.

Starting today, I will use fear as my motivation. Not my excuse.

Also, today I "signed" an online pledge to not text and drive. Please join me and keep our roads safe(r) ;-)

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And now, a statement I just read as I typed this post:

You could NEVER walk a mile in my shoes... WHY? Because my shoes are AWESOME and I don't loan them out!


AWESOME! I'm adopting that!

One More Time

I have a Proposition for you.

That one, I get!!!

I think it's obnoxiously hilarious when people who know I've been divorced; that David doesn't even live in the same state as I do.... just visits every 2 weeks; that we had a rough marriage before..... which left me on my own A LOT during the first 6 years of our marriage; OH, AND that he was deployed with the Military from the time I was 8 months pregnant with Elizabeth until right before Elysia was born; Think that I know NOTHING about being a Single Parent. NOPE! I get that one!

I have been a Single Parent of anywhere from 1 to 5 Children throughout the 10 years since I got married the first time.

I think people get caught up on the fact that A) Our divorce was only 3 months, and B) David is still in the picture.

What they don't see/understand is:

Although we were only DIVORCED for 3 months, we were officially separated for 3 months BEFORE that. And that was the SECOND time we had officially separated. I had kicked David out, or left him MANY times before that. So, I had at LEAST a year and a half of "official" Single Parent time under my belt.

And it doesn't matter that David is still "in the picture" and paying the bills. He is 100% NOT AROUND most of the time. I don't HAVE a second parent to help out. It's JUST ME!

SO, labels may need to be adjusted (No surprise THERE! People are ALWAYS trying to put strict labels on things that they don't always fit) But I am DEFINITELY no stranger to being a Single Parent!

"Instead of worrying about what people might think, why not spend time trying to accomplish something for which people will admire you." - Dale Carnegie

Wife Swap

I LOVE the show "Wife Swap"!!! Sorry, ya'll. You MIGHT be SHOCKED, but watching that show has shown me that I'm a REALLY balanced, "normal", Caring Mom!


I really am SMACK in the middle of EVERY extreme I have seen on that show.

I am structured. But I know how to, and teach my kids how to let loose.

I expect certain things from My Family. But they also get time to do things THEIR way.... as long as they are respectuful and have manners.

I teach values, respect, love, caring, responsibility, taking care of belongings including our bodies.

I teach moderation. And there are only TWO things I have taught my children you DO NOT EVER try: Tobacco, and Drugs. WE take medicine AS Prescribed. ANd I explain that to them.

We have Family discussions about sex. And My Girls know that I didn't take the advice I'm giving them, and regret it. But that it's their life. And if they CHOOSE to have sex before they are adults, and married, there could be consequences that they won't like. I teach them about SAFE sex. Not NO sex.

I am willing to hear that I am not the best Mom.

I am willing to look at myself through a magnifying glass, and view the truth. And then change it, if I need to!


Example: Today, I said to Elizabeth, who was being unkind to her sibling, "Why are you being mean?" She said "Because sometimes YOU are mean to us." I said "I am sorry for that. Do you see me doing better?" SHe said that she did. I explained that I will work harder. But that does not make it ok for her to do it to others.

I think that is something many parents fail at. Being real, honest, and allowing their Children to critique them and change when what they are doing isn't right.

I teach them to be healthy. To mange their time, money and desires. I teach them that if they want something, they have to earn it.