I keep yelling about My Position, now it's time to SHOW!

They say that it's "Better to keep your mouth shut, and be thought a Fool. Than it is to Open it and PROVE yourself a Fool."

OK.

I HAVE tried over the years to abide by this. But I hated everyone assuming I'm a Fool. So I've yelled and yelled My Position on EVERYTHING! And NO ONE seems to know my position. Or that I'm NOT an Uneducated Fool.

*However, I AM please to announce that it seems to be starting to be proven as time passes the Fruits of My Labors. How decisions I made years ago, and have stood by despite EVERYONE telling me I was wrong, are starting to be viewed as "Maybe she DID know what she was doing AFTER ALL!"*

SO.

Here is My Declaration. These are things I stand FIRMLY on and will stand by. Here is My Position.

1)I Home School. I don't know if there will EVER be a time when that will change. I doubt it. I KNOW that what I am choosing by choosing to keep My Children out of Public School is THE BEST ANSWER. I PRAY My Children won't resent me for it. I have them in Dance, Soccer, and Music with Me. We go ALL OVER THE PLACE and they learn a LOT! Holly said to me "I hope YOU don't resent you for it." And THAT was a Moment of Truth. Where I realized that I WOULD resent myself if I caved, and against my KNOWING that I shouldn't, put them in Public School anyway.


2)I believe in MODERATION. In ALL things. Not abstaining. Not over indulging. EXCEPT when it comes to illegal drugs and tobacco. In reference to THOSE, I believe in ABSOLUTE abstinence.

3)I believe that we have money for what is important to us. And can't find money for the things that aren't. And SOME people have their priorities on this topic SERIOUSLY F*'d up!!!!!!!!!!!

4)I am NOT perfect. I've made LOTS of mistakes. And yes, that is part of why people still wonder where I stand. Because I'm not 100% perfectly consistent. I'm still learning. And I'm ALWAYS working to find that balance of moderation. And I am AMAZINGLY better today than I was a week ago.

5)I believe in CONSTANTLY evolving (If I'm doing this correctly, you should be seeing how all of these are flowing together. One statement flows off of and is an extension 0f the last)

6)EMPATHY is something I cannot preach ENOUGH about. I believe THE WORST CRIME you can commit against another Human Being is cutting them down rather than taking the time to understand where they are coming from, where they are trying, and where they are struggling. As long as they are still making an EFFORT, I will give them the benefit of the doubt. HOWEVER, Once someone PROVES their motives are nothing but malice, I cut my empathy off and cauterize it! I do Forgive easily as part of having Empathy. I accept "I'm Sorry" pretty readily and will ALWAYS offer a 2nd chance.

7)I will NOT be abused. Nor will I allow My Family to be abused... by ANYONE. Including myself and each other.

8)I stand 100% by MY RIGHT and ability to be free from the meddling of others. To be in a Traditional Partnership with My Husband that has sole authority over Our Family with God's guidance. I have a conscience. I have common sense. I reserve the right to teach, discipline and protect My Family and assets according to our beliefs of what is or is NOT acceptable.

9) I believe in NOT being a Lemming. PERIOD. Thinking outside the box is EXPECTED!

I have an ENORMOUS capacity for understanding and love.

I am VERY intelligent.

And NOTHING is just chance.... I am a planner, a plotter, and a schemer. You can be assured that EVERY decision I make takes the 9 points above into EXTREME consideration.

It's HIS plan!

I just read a previous post of mine.

It's SO COOL to see that Bella came just 1 week after Summer 2011 officially ended! I'd call that pretty precise wishing and achieving!

Now, I don't know which job I was referring to, but I can guess. However, things worked out even better in that area than I'd hoped. David did INDEED get an AWESOME job by the end of 2010 (the post was May of 2010). And the job is proving to be EVERYTHING we need!

We didn't get the house. BUT we are now in a place where we are Blooming BEAUTIFULLY as a Family.

Thank GOD for being in charge, and taking my rudimentary plan and making it perfect.

Laurie

Jamie suggested that I use names so that people know for CERTAIN whether to be offended because I AM talking to them... or NOT.

So Laurie, if you still read these posts, this one IS about you.

One thing that you said SEVERAL times was that "Actions speak louder than words." Well, you didn't pay much attention to my actions. OR my words,for that matter.

If you did, you would have actually caught all of the things I DID for you.

I bought you a membership to the aquarium.

I got you into the zoo SEVERAL times.

I Offered to CONTINUE getting you into the zoo so you didn't HAVE to spend any of your "limited" (according to you) $ on a membership.

I saved you $ on Mickelli's Birthday Party by a) buying your membership to the aquarium, and b) splitting the cost with you by combining Elizabeth's party with hers.

I am the one who sought you out after being "dismissed" by you SEVERAL times for WHO KNOWS WHAT!

I came to help you with your primary lesson.

I invited you over week after week and cooked for you.

I helped you decorate.

I picked you up and drove you... AND your kids.... EVERYWHERE we went together.

And through it all, you always acted like my "things" weren't good enough for you and your Family.

If I offered your children... your VERY SPOILED Children at that...a bottle of juice, it was ALWAYS turned down. Snacks, the same.

And THEN, YOU have the NERVE to accuse ME of not being a "True Friend." ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!?!?

I invited you over, and over, and over, and over, AND OVER to things. And you LIED TO ME. Over, and over, and over! I even invited you to an ALL paid for movie with snacks. And offered to come pick you up. And you LIED TO ME about why you didn't want to.

And THEN you got offended over things you read of mine...INSISTING I was slandering you. And attacking ME, when the things you read had NOTHING to do with you.

BUT by getting offended and taking them personally, maybe they fit you, and I just didn't know it.

SO. If actions speak louder than words... Well, where YOU are concerned, BOTH your actions AND your words have been pretty disrespectful towards ME and MY FAMILY. And have shown how LOUSY of a Friend, and quite frankly, a pretty crappy person you are.

I however, think I have proven that I WAS a true Friend to you.

And the icing on the cake, that I will NEVER forget is the time you looked at me at the mall, and said " You owe me $! Do you want to buy that for me?" And All there was for me to do, was look at you and say "Um,no! I don't owe you $" Because I made sure to never be in arrears with you!

We're back online :-)

YAY! Thanks to My WONDERFUL Husband, I can type in paragraphs again!

So, here we go ;-)

Somethings are predictable.... like Death and Taxes. Oh and people WILL talk

One of my recent Blog posts lost me another "Friend." SURPRISE! Um, NOT!!!! My Blog posts always seem to have that affect. STUPID, it is! People just take themselves way too seriously. And they get permanently offended by temporary issues. Surprisingly enough, the post had nothing to do with them, but they insist it did! And they have with held permission for me to talk or blog about them. Sorry Honey, I can say whatever I choose. That's the thing. This isn't the first person over the weekend (which I've spent VERY sick, BTW) that has suggested I don't share what I know about them. But BOTH of these people are major Gossip Spreaders. And beacause of them PLUS one other incident early in the weekend, I realized something. PEOPLE ARE GOING TO TALK ABOUT YOU. It doesn't matter who you are. It doesn't matter what you do. It may be good. It may be bad. But they are GOING to talk. The thing to do about it, instead of getting your panties in a bunch, is to give them as much positive to say as possible. I had someone say once about me that "She may be crazy, but I get her crazy (I get the reasons behind her "crazy")." And you know, that's about all I ever ask. You may not agree with how I am. You may not like or agree with how I do things. But if you can at least see the logic, or reasons and understand THAT, I'll take it as at LEAST neutral. If the only thing you have to say about me is neutral, then I'm doing alright ;-) And if you are able to share good things about me. Even better. The ONLY control one has over what people say about them, is how much ammunition they willingly provide against themselves. If you want to control what people say about you, limit what you share. Let them make stuff up when they're bored. BS dies quickly when they run out of things to make up about you. You want to limit your enemies if you don't want negative things being said. And freaking out insisting that people don't talk about you, only creates them. Your Friends are GOING to talk about you. Hopefully all positive, and never private matters, BUT they WILL talk. Your Family are GOING to talk about you. Again, HOPEFULLY all positive, and never private matters. BUT THEY WILL TALK. Your enemies ARE GOING TO TALK ABOUT YOU! So try to neutralize what they have to say. Make sure you're a person of intergrity, so that the worst they can say is "I don't like them, but that's about it." But they WILL talk. So MOVE ON!!!! Surround yourself with people you can trust. But DON'T freak out when you suspect you were the topic of conversation. If someone DOES blog about you. See it as being interesting enough that you left a lasting impression. But if you go FLYING OFF THE HANDLE when you ASSUME a post is about you, you just might make a new enemy.

YES! It makes sense!!!

I was talking with a couple of AMAZING Girl Friends tonight. And something one of them said was very interesting in respect to the way the Priesthood is "run" in our church. And I realized something. Let me back up to another topic that comes full circle: We were talking about jerky ex-husbands. And how they tend to try to persuade other people to see them as the Victim, or Good Guy in a divorce. And how damaging it can be to the other party in the relationship. And it brings me back to one of my favorite subjects.... Karma. Things evening out in the end, and such. People in general aren't as blind to the difference between a "Good" person, and a "Bad" person as we might think, or they may appear. Most people react to them differently out of intution. And when you have a yucky person trying to pretend to be not yucky, I am really learning that most people catch on. And then it goes into the church. A person gets into serious trouble and faces disciplinary action with the church because of a choice they made. And when they try to reconcile with the church, sometimes, it doesn't go so smoothly. IE they may go into their respective clergy and ask to be reinstated into full fellowship, and be told "Not yet." And it may not always be obvious why they are being denied. But very often there is a reason.... as in, someone in the line of Heiarchy that makes has a hand in the decision whether or not to allow the reconciliation, doesn't feel quite right about it. And denies the request. And maybe, just maybe, it's because they see something in the person, or situation that just doesn't quite click as valid enough to allow them to be fully involved yet. And I like how it just makes sense on a level where it turns into and "Ah Hah" moment.

Unwilling

I truly believe that Heavenly Father views not being grateful and being unwilling to be kind/help others as the WORST things you can be next to murder and adultery. Boy, being a Parent has taught me a TON about Him. I view a lack of gratitude and kindness, and abuse of any kind between my children as ABHORANT. So His view on those things is easy to understand. I have encountered several cases of these first 2 mentioned "crimes" lately, and it really gets under my skin. Remember the scripture "Blessed are the Merciful, for they shall obtain Mercy."? Yup! Pretty much. What you refuse to others, be it Mercy, Forgiveness, etc. Will be likely refused to you when the time of reckoning comes.