All I ever need to know, I learned on HOUSE

Mondays episode of house was enlightening combined with the night David and I had Tues.

I realized something very important:

Fights, arguments, disagreements, not always being happy with eachother is part of LIFE. It just is. That's part of what loving someone is all about. You see, a lot of arguments are misunderstandings that occur when someone in the relationship is trying to meet a need in their partner, but not quite getting it. But that's the key: They are trying. Both partners may be trying, and just not getting it. And sometimes a fight occurs. But again: They are BOTH trying. And I am learning that is exactly what matters. Not that every itch each person has gets scratched every time. Not that the person adequately meets EVERY need. But that they love you enough to have making an effort as a constant thought. That they give up comforts for your comfort. And you in return reciprocate the effort. If you are with someone who doesn't even try, it's a totally different story.

But there are very few "unforgivable" sins in a marriage. Cheating is definitely on the list. As well as REAL abuse of ANY family member. But misunderstandings are not and should not be the grounds for not being able to work it out. Because you can both take time to "cool off" and come back and simply be done.