Today's Quote

“As parents, we should remember that our lives may be the book from the family library which the children most treasure. Are our examples worthy of emulation? Do we live in such a way that a son or a daughter may say, ‘I want to follow my dad,’ or ‘I want to be like my mother’? Unlike the book on the library shelf, the covers of which shield its contents, our lives cannot be closed. Parents, we truly are an open book in the library of learning of our homes.” Thomas S Monson

Saturday, April 30, 2011

Come Holy Ghost

Come... Holy Ghost
Abide inside with me
Let's look, out my windows
Show me what I need to see
Point and I will go
Oh, I will follow Thee
Come... Holy Ghost
Abide inside with me

Lets decorate my mind
With thoughts, Divine
We'll set a guard at my heart
To keep my mouth, in line
We'll receive our directions
From the Holy Throne above
Oh, Come... Holy Ghost
Teach me to walk in love.

Come... Holy Ghost
Abide inside with me
Let's look, out my windows
Show me what I need to see
Point and I will go
Oh, I will follow Thee
Come... Holy Ghost
Abide inside with me
~ Thomas Eugene Hudson ~

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

As a couple we have always sacrificed and made sure we budgeted to drive hundreds of miles to celebrate with, and be close to those who matter in our lives. If someone is wanting to spend time with us that we don't usually get to see because of distance, we make it happen. Apparently, this is not a normal thing to do.

As it gets harder to do so, others will have their excuses. Meaning that if you haven't visited us yet, you prolly won't.

Of Course Family in Canada is excluded from this comment. We know where we stand with you! xoxo

Monday, April 25, 2011

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Marching to your own beat

Marching to your own beat is a lonely path choice, But that doesn't make it wrong. Thank you to those who have supported us. And to those who haven't, well.... I won't judge you, but you might want to take a closer look at exactly what you're judging. "By their Fruits shall they be known." The fruit is good, why is there a problem?

It IS a lonely path to choose. You can't understand that if you've always marched to the accepted beat.

People misunderstand your intentions. They misunderstand your thinking. And even with the proof that your choices are creating something good, they struggle to see the big picture.

Monday, April 11, 2011

Thank GOD for my Children

What I wish at this moment is COMPLETELY opposite of what I think it would be if EVERYTHING was exactly the same in my life right now EXCEPT I didn't have my Children.

At this MOMENT in time, I PRAY and WISH for a VERY long life with the resources, health, and mental clarity to care for the five AMAZING Babies God as put in my life, in my home, and in my SOUL!

Were they not here, I doubt I would want any longer than a year or two.

Oh Boy

I've said it before, and it looks like I'm saying it again. To me, inviting someone to join you for a special occasion is just plain nice and considerate. Even if they can't come, at least they know that they are valued, and wanted.

And I CANNOT stand when people are offended by that, or just down right rude about it.

If you receive an invite... especially with the advances in technology making E invites popular, simply say "Thank you but we will not be attending." SOOO simple, and yet SUPER considerate.

I've run into yet another situation where I invited someone, and then they just aren't listed ANYWHERE. So, since it's been a few months, I invited them again. After all, maybe I was the inconsiderate one, and forgot to invite them. And after all they are important to me, so I want to make sure they know it.

And then, when I look tonight.... KNOWING that I invited them TODAY, and they just aren't ANYWHERE again, I GET IT.

And it's hurtful. And it makes me feel crappy. And like I'm nothing but a joke to them.

And I am REALLY SUPER SICK of having my attempts at making someone feel wanted, and valued turned against me.

So, to you who can't see it for what it is, I HATE how you make me feel!

Sunday, April 10, 2011

Dark Chocolate Beer Cake

Dark Chocolate, Fudge, or Devil's Food cake mix,1/3 cup of water, 3 eggs, 1 cup of beer, 1/2 cup of oil or butter. Pour the beer into a pan, add butter or oil. Bring to boil.

Pre heat oven to 350 degrees. Mix cake mix, beer& butter/oil mixture, eggs, and water together. Grease and flour a bundt pan. Pour into pan and bake for 35 min.

Jesus was Picky too

He is the one person who loved everyone no matter what they were. But even HE was picky about those he associated with.

If you wanted to be with Him, you were welcomed with open arms. But if you didn't appreciate what He could offer you, He let you alone. Not in an unkind way, but He of all people wasn't one to force his presence.

This has been eye opening to me.

Being Christlike doesn't mean you can't be selective.

And that is something I'm going to be. If YOU want to be around me. If you value me, I welcome you into my life with open arms. If not, we may both live and exist peacefully separately.

Tired of feeling this way

I hate feeling held hostage by passive aggressive people who don't validate, appreciate or have a whole lot of compassion.

I'm afraid of passive aggressive people. They seem Bi Polar. They're too unpredictable, and I don't have the room for the stress that comes from that. I KNOW it's a power play. They may not consciously realize that it is, but it has all of the signs of it, and I'm not playing.

I will not keep people in my life who play this game

Saturday, April 9, 2011

Cherry 7-up cake with cherry glaze

* I use this glaze on my beer cakes * YUMMY!

Ingredients:
3 sticks butter
1 cup sugar
3 eggs
1/2 tsp vanilla extract
8 oz. Cherry 7Up
3 cups cake flour
1/2 cup of Maraschino Cherry, finely chopped
4 oz. Maraschino Cherry Juice

Cherry Glaze:
1 stick butter
2 cups confectioner's sugar
4 oz. Maraschino Cherry Juice


Directions:
Cream eggs, butter and sugar. In three rounds, alternate adding 7Up and flour into the mixture. Add cherries and juice. Mix well. Grease bundt cake pan thoroughly. Then, pour cake mixture into the pan. Bake at 350 degrees F for about 50 minutes to an hour or until cake tester runs dry. Remove from pan and cool before glazing.

In the meantime, make the glaze on a separate mixing bowl. Mix all the ingredients together until it is nice and smooth. Use a cake decorator or a pipping device such as a freezer bag by cutting off one of the corners. Fill the decorator tube or freezer bag with the glaze and refrigerate. Once cake completely cools, drizzle glaze all over it. Extra glaze can be used as a finishing touch when cake is served. Enjoy!

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Nuh uh!

I would like for one day to see myself through the average person I associate with's eyes.

I can only guess that I come across as an immature, bratty, only child who wants what I want and doesn't have a whole lot of wisdom to pull from for my decisions.

I assume this is what people say because it seems normal for people with HALF my experience to think I need to be told how to be a successful adult. I get what I would considered bullied quite a bit. Like I'm a ditsy blonde who just bobs along, and "Candace "blonde" jokes" about my inadequacies in life are funny.

Let me tell you the TRUTH.

I have a TON of life experience. I know a LOT about a LOT of things. I have experienced a LOT of things. (Computers and phones are NOT included in that, I really am dumb when those are involved)

After FIVE kids, I know a significant amount about the general task of parenthood. I don't suffer from "I had no siblings to practice on so I know nothing about taking care of a child" syndrome. I've had FOUR to practice on.

I know what is acceptable to me and what just isn't. And I'm not willing to tolerate what I don't like just to keep things happy.

I know exactly what is possible with time, energy and resources. I HATE excuses. HATE HATE HATE excuses. I have kept a Family of 6 satisfactorily clothed, fed, and cared for on below poverty level wages at times. And we still have the ability to celebrate peoples' birthdays with them, or go to a movie with a friend that we haven't seen in a while.

I KNOW exactly how much of an art Parenthood is. That it is a precise juggling act. And while I may not be perfect at it, you may want to think twice before treating me like a dumb 21 year old blonde with no life experience.

WAY TOO MANY people underestimate the impact of living 200+ miles from where you grew up. You HAVE to do it to understand. And I'm learning really quickly that many LDS members who have never left Utah except to go on vacation and I don't get a long.

Anyone who has always lived in Utah who has dealt with persecution for lifestyle choices, or who has been in the military or served a mission will understand what I am saying.... and these are the people I get along with. "Cookie Cutter" Mormons under the age of 35 are generally to0 closed minded for us to have a quality relationship. Even those who have gone to school outside of a 100 mile radius of where they grew up share this distinguishing characteristic. Because they GET it. Those who are over 25 and still single.... they get it too. There is a definite experience that comes from living by your own testimony, survival skills, etc that just can't be gained from a "cookie cutter" life. SO, while that life is fine, don't treat me like I don't know anything.

And while we're at it. I HATE one sided relationships. HATE HATE HATE THEM!!! As long as someone is willing to make an effort to be a part of my life, they are going to be treated like GOLD! They deserve that. It is such a wonderful thing to have someone care about what's going on in your life. And be there to boost you up when things get into a slump. I don't invite people to things over and over again for any reason but that I care about them, and want to include them. But this seems to be the most offensive thing I do. People seem turned off by the inclusion. So, I won't include them anymore.

Followers