Something I've noticed in life is that it is common to see "love" triangles. And I don't mean just romantic love triangles. It's common to see a situation where person A wants person B's affection. But person B wants to give person C that affection, or wants the affection from person C vs. person A.
A child might desparately seek their Mother's affection, for example. But that mother is more focused on giving that affection to or recieving affection from another child.
It's a hard scenario. And one I am glad that I have become wise to while my Children are still young. This way I can be aware of the tendancies.... because I believe it's unfortunately "natural" in a lot of situations. And I have seen it in my own circles of Friends and Family.
I've notice Elizabeth and Abby are constantly pushing me for my affection. And I love them both dearly. But sometimes it is easier for me to show that affection to Elysia or Jacob. So armed with this awareness, and knowledge, I am able to step back and give Elizabeth or Abby what they are needing from me. I hope that all of my children can find a fulfillment in my love for them and not feel unsatisfied and need to search other places to fill that place.
That is one of my goals as I parent. To be what they need, rather than what I want to give them. Their needs are there for a reason, and I need to step up and be equal to the challenge.
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